Here is a fascinating article about the seeking of advice by parents. Tim Challies makes two recommendation for parents:
- Find a couple who have parented children and their children are now into their twenties. Such children you perceive to be wholesome, well developed individuals. Seek out such a couple and speak to them about parenting. Seek their advice.
- Get that couple to observe your family and to give their view of your parenting. You give them a free invitation into your family and welcome their counsel.
This seems to be such sound counsel and well worth heeding for the parents of any younger children.
However, the principle also applies in all sorts of areas of life. It can apply at work and in engaging in different kinds of service.
If you are a preacher seeking to taking your first steps in preaching then follow the two stages Tim Challies mentions and you will be well.
Similarly for those who are married seek out a godly couple who have progressed healthily in their marriage over many years.
We need to be deliberate about these things. We need to be open to being corrected.
I fear that there is so much wisdom and good counsel that goes untapped because we are all so self-contained. Dare I say that at the heart of this issue is a sense of pride that I will be able to do it myself.
The article also refers to the problem of millennials just looking online for advice and the constant tendency to only reference your peers for advice. When seeking advice it is best as a general principle to go to those who are older: those who have passed through the seasons of life.
Our churches, families and communities will be prospered and helped when we are seeking and giving advice with freedom and receptivity.