Criticism comes in the normal course of life. Criticism comes in seeking to serve the Lord. There should be no surprise that if the master suffered criticism then won’t that be true of his servants as well? So we read in Matthew 10:24-25:
A disciple is not above his teacher, nor a servant above his master. It is enough for the disciple to be like his teacher, and the servant like his master. If they have called the master of the house Beelzebul, how much more will they malign those of his household.
But what do we do when criticism comes? Are we “pig-heads” or “snowflakes”?
Pig-Heads say “Stuff you with whatever you say, I am going to do it this way and if you don’t like it you will have to lump it.”
Snowflakes says “If you have said it, it must be right. I must do what you say straight-away. I will do whatever you say, yes sir, no sir; three bags full sir.”
So where do each of us sit with these responses. I suggest we are all somewhere on a spectrum here between pig-heads and snowflakes.
But how should we respond to criticism. I have written about how we should respond to a rebuke here. I post some further thoughts;
- Always listen to what the person has to say. Seek calcification if necessary, but don’t pursue every detail ad nauseam.
- Listen courteously and thank them for their observations which have very likely not been easy to deliver.
- Consider what has been said and pray over it.
- Seek advice and other counsel from those you trust.
- Consider who has made the criticism and of what character, wisdom and maturity they are.
- Respond and adopt the observations which you think are legitimate.
- Reject those which you believe do not hold up.
Then move on with your life. We need to embrace something of Paul’s attitude: But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead I press on towards the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.(Phil 3:13b-14). Continually revisiting what has been said can keep you from the task in hand which is to serve God and be for Him.
We read theses words at the end of Esther concerning Mordecai: he was great among the Jews and popular with the multitude of his brothers, for he sought the welfare of his people and spoke peace to all his people (Esther 10:3b).
Let us consider some of the attributes of this man which made him such a great leader:
- In the believing community multitudes warmed to Mordecai. It does not say all warmed to him, but a vast majority did. True elders among God’s people can never expect universal acclamation. However, if he is not popular with the majority of the church then questions need to be asked as regards to the suitability of a man to be a leader.
- He was not seeking a position for himself, but seeking to use whatever position he had for the benefit of others. Those who are seeking to gain postilion for self-seeking gain should not be elders among God’s people.
- He was looking out for the welfare of God’s people. he wanted the best for them; he cared for them. Mordecai expended his energies in order that God’s people would prosper in the Lord’s ways.
- He spoke peace to God’s people. He was not set for harshness or division, but for harmony and peaceableness among God’s people. We must notice that this was for all the people even those it was not so easy to love. Speaking peace does not exclude speaking firmly, but it does prohibit nastiness.
In all these things we see shadows of our great true leader; our Lord Jesus. The ultimate One to seek the welfare of His people; the One above all others who speaks peace to all His people. The One who with overwhelming sacrificial love came to bless his people.
India continues busily. I have attended the Golden Anniversary Celebrations of Central Baptist Church, Machillipatnam. This was from Thursday 5th to Sunday 8th.
Everything was translated into Telegu. There was a Pastor’s Conference on Thursday and Friday. And also the general celebrations. I preached several times with a few impromptu things thrown in.
It was great to see people wanting to hear and receive the Word. Apparently, there were 700 people there on Saturday evening. Amazingly, they seem to give a full meal at lunch and dinner for all who are there at all the sessions.
There were lots and lots of presentations to people who have faithfully served the Lord, or are connected to others who have faithfully served. Some beautiful singing and music. Interestingly, it was all very loud through big amplification. It was great to see that the vast majority of the songs were indigenous songs. I think, during the days, I only recognised one which seemed to be a translation from English.
So much beautiful food to enjoy.
My stomach has generally held up well. However, I am a little queasy this morning with some diarrhoea.
The highlight of the conference for me was probably going to a small village church yesterday morning to preach. Such a blessing to see these dear people wanting to hear and know the Lord through His Word.
It seems to me that we Christians in the UK are far too complacent about the loss of our buildings. When a church has ceased to function in a building the normal recourse is to dispose of the premises on the open market. Such an event leads to the accrual of certain funds. This can lead us to being happy that we are being faithful servants of the Lord in the dispersing of funds for gospel purposes.
I am not saying that this approach is to be rejected. It may be the appropriate course of action. Such situation would be, for example, where an area has been depopulated and there are little or few people in an area. Also it may well be an application of the principle that our Lord set for his disciples that if anyone will not receive you or listen to your words, shake off the dust from your feet when you leave that house or town (Matt. 10:14).
However, I still would want to make two strand assertions on this subject:
- The loss of a building generally equals the loss of a testimony for our Lord in an area. In the losing of the building there is a losing of a place where the gospel of our Lord Jesus is honoured and declared. Accordingly, we have to ponder upon whether we have lost our gospel vision to make sure that many can still have opportunity to hear the gospel. This loss is compounded in its significance and poignancy when false religions take them over to propagate lies.
- Many churches normally meet in public buildings such as schools and village halls. There are many good reasons why this is a sound approach to existing and living as a church. However, we need to get real and realise that this cannot be a situation that continues indefinitely. The fact that the biblical perspective on homosexuality and transgenderism is so at odds with that of the present zeitgeist in our country means that the doors to public buildings will metaphorically and literally soon be closing. When this happens will we be woken up and wonder why we did not take more action to keep church buildings within the church.
I urge some thinking on this issue.
This is essential for the Christian; you must have your personal time alone with Him. You put your life in peril if you do not. Church fellowship is essential and we need to be experiencing that to grow in the Lord. Worshipping in the family at home must also be there in our schedules. But we must not neglect being in the secret place with the Lord.
You have to find out what works for you. You may be able to operate on a spontaneous basis, whereby in the natural flow of life you are having space to worship the Lord and be with Him. However, for most of us, I suggest, that this is not the case, We need to be more disciplined. we need to set aside a specific time to be alone with our Father and our Lord Jesus. Regular habits are normally good in this respect.
And if your Quiet Time or personal time with the Lord is becoming dull and lacklustre then mix it up. Try whatever works. Try reading a few passages of good Christ centred books. The Puritans are good here and Richard Sibbes is always a good place to start. Try prayer lists. In all this make sure that your prayings and worshippings are Bible framed so you must have the Word.
Living Christians are always God’s presence Christians. No time in the presence of the Lord means death to your soul and impoverishment in spiritual desires and worship.
And of course our Lord Jesus sets the pattern here. He was so keen to spend time with his Father that he would get up early to make sure it happened. Perhaps that is what you need to do (and me). You need to be thinking about getting up a bit earlier and having time in His presence.
I have written about personal devotions at further length here if you are interested.
King Hezekiah was a good man; who lived well for the glory of his God. If we are sensible, that is exactly what we should desire for ourselves. So we read these words concerning Hezekiah He did what was right in the eyes of the Lord, just as his father David had done. In the first month of the first year of his reign, he opened the doors of the temple of the Lord and repaired them. (2 Chron. 29:2-3)
This establishes a significant principle for us. It is that worship must not just be “a” priority in our lives, but be ‘the’ priority in our lives. When we lose this focus then our lives are always impoverished as a result. Worship should be at the centre of our lives. Hezekiah teaches us well here. He could have done a multitude of things as he set to move the ways of God forward after the vacillating leadership of his father, Ahaz. But he was wise and put worship at the centre. He realised the temple must be operating appropriately if ever the people of God are to be operating properly.
What lesson is this? It must apply:-
- Personally. So I must get worship flourishing in my life. I should be going to the Word to find material to bring praise to my great God and his Son.
- Collectively. When we prioritise anything over worship in our churches then we are always likely to go adrift.
I happened to be in close proximity to the Gay Pride march in Oxford earlier in the month. Some things struck me.
How acceptable this all is.
I noticed a bank and business society displaying the rainbow insignia in their windows. To not be an adherent to the LGBT+ agenda is now seen as being out of touch. And if your business is not with the LGBT+ agenda then you are considered discriminatory and bigoted.
How normal this all is.
Looking at the people taking part it seemed that so many were just your average families with parents and kids. Yes there were those who were more “odd”, but the normality of the participants I saw struck me. It was as if you are not part of the in-crowd if you are not participating. How much has changed in twenty-five years; in fact probably ten years.
On 18th September 2003 s28 of the Local Government act 1988 which banned the promotion of homosexuality in schools was repealed. This seems like another age completely from where we are today. But that is only fifteen years ago.
How dangerous this all is.
The whole agenda of LGBT+ is a rejection of two fundamental creatorial principles as established in God’s Word. These are:
- We are made male and female.
- Sexual relationships are to be between one man and one woman in marriage.
Such principles are the bedrock of a society to function healthy. Moreover, the throwing aside of these standard leads me to ask what other standards will go next. I suggest the driving force in it all is that of establishing a consensus rather than maintaining established principles.
When consensus drives the agenda we can end anywhere, You might be interested to hear what happened in Rwanda when consensus led to the slaughter of thousands. Listen about that here. In this programme Alan Little uses the eerie phrase “democratisation of evil”. Mmmmmmh makes me wonder about what is going on in our own society.