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- The biblical frame is that men and women come together for marriage. You should never “date” or “go out” with someone unless you feel there is some prospect that you might marry this person.
- Casual dating should not be considered.
- Clear communication must be had with the sister in Christ you are considering going out with so that there is no confusion as regards to each other’s intentions.
- You are the man and in God’s order of things you have responsibility to lead things from the beginning. You should be the initiative taker.
- You should only go out with another believer. It is wrong to be unequally yoked. The Lord says in 2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
- Start by praying and reading the Bible together. Make that a key ingredient of your relationship right from the beginning.
- Don’t be insular. Yes “go out” together, but make sure you mix with others. You will find out a lot about the young lady’s character through this (and she about yours).
- Encourage each other to be going to church.
- Going back to the biblical frame, the fundamental character of a male/female relationship being established is that the woman leaves her parents home to join the man in the new marital home (see Gen. 2:24). Regard should be had so that the parents of the sister are respected and at some point the father approached as regards to taking his daughter into marriage, should the relationship develop that way.
- Make sure that you are very careful about the physical aspects of your relationship. Sex outside of marriage is wrong. But stirring up feelings through amorous contact is wrong too. The Spirit says in Hebrews 13:4: Marriage should be honoured by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
- Before marriage you are exploring whether you are compatible in the Lord and in marriage. The physical aspects of the relationship are for marriage. It is good therefore outside of marriage to make sure that certain parts of your body do not come into contact.
- Any woman should have nothing to do with a man who disrespects her so much that he would “try it on” before marriage.
- If you are in a relationship and you realise that it is not working out, then you should be clear with the lady involved. You must not let things drift on and let feelings become intensified.