The concept of The Languages of Love was popularised in Gary Chapman’s book. He categorised five of such namely:
- words of affirmation,
- acts of service,
- spending quality time,
- giving gifts,
- physical touch.
Broadly, I would feel that they have a certain legitimacy.
What I want to ponder upon here is the issue of how an awareness of these love languages can enhance our preaching.
The tendency is to view life through our love language. So if you are a works of service person you conceive of everyone else in the world as being a works of service person. And if you are a works of service preacher you will preach works of service very big as you seek to apply the Word of God to people.
The first thing we need to be aware of then as preachers is that everyone is not like us. To work the Word into people’s lives as if everyone is a clone of me, in terms of their satisfactions and desires is to fail in our preaching.
In mentioning this I am not negating the necessity to preach the Word as it stands. That is our primary responsibility, but that Word must be applied to the people in front of me. And very likely all five love languages will be represented in front of me.