Yesterday’s post reminds me of the whole issue of how we respond to bereavement. When a person has lost a loved-one we, who know that person or the deceased, immediately feel their loss. We flock around them: we take an interest and make it evident that we care. And then the funeral comes. The funeral brings closure for so many of those who were close to the deceased (but not too close); for them they can move on with their lives.
The assumption is though, that the one who has lost a very close relative such as a son, daughter, or spouse will also be moving on. But as a general rule they are not. Maybe the funeral has brought some degree of closure. However, there is still such a sense of loss and loneliness as they come to terms with the fact that someone who was so much a part of their lives is no longer around.
The whole feeling is exacerbated by the fact that all of the comforters, in the immediate days after the bereavement, have moved on.
This all leads me to think about how we should be ever so thoughtful and sensitive to these situations. Continuance of interest is so important. In the church we should ever be prayerful and thoughtful for those who have lost ones even if it is a longtime after the event. We should sensitively talk to the person and listen to see how they are getting on.
One tip is to be thoughtful of anniversaries. Perhaps write in a diary pertinent dates so that you can show your loving interest in the bereaved at those times.