The social experimentation which has driven the collapse of the husband/wife/children family unit has not served us well. In fact it has, and is having, serious consequences for society. One particular way in which this is seen is in the destabilisation of children.
The physical liaison which leads to children being produced is only to be engaged in within marriage. As the Word of the Lord says: Marriage should be honoured by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral (Heb. 13:4). By implication then it should only be in God’s purposes that children are born into marriage. It is in this context that children develop appropriately. It is with a mother and father watching over them and guiding them and caring for them that they develop well. It is interesting that the whole of the book of Proverbs is framed within this perspective. There are no doubt times when the parents are cruel and thereby inflict harm on their children, but it is a general rule that children do best in this family unit. That should be no surprise to us because God’s way is always best.
It is sad to observe children not being brought up in this situation. One thing I observe is how such children are destabilised. They lack the innate security, which having a mother and father working together, brings. It is just not healthy for their development. This makes it alarming that there is a relentless pursuit of “a brave new world” of reinventing the family. Oh! Please, please for the sake of our children stop! Please go back to our Maker’s original plan and all will be so much better! And, in particular, so much better for our children.