My fundamental dilemma here is how do we respond when a child is born to someone who is not married? I am, of course, operating within the biblical framework which determines that the godly, and even dare I say proper way, for children to be born is within the marriage bond of one man and one women for life.
So how are we to respond when children are born to those who are not married? I remember as a boy in the village where I was brought up that a girl fell pregnant out of marriage. There was a sense of shame in this so much that she was sent somewhere else for the period of the pregnancy and presumably the baby was adopted. Although, such a procedure was somewhat harsh it does indicate how there was a shame about having children without marriage.
So how should we react in this scenario:-
- We should not expect non-christians to have the moral framework of believers.
- We can rejoice over the safe delivery of a baby.
- We cannot rejoice that the baby is born in a situation which is not pleasing to God and is not in the best interests of that child. Marriage is always the best place for a child to be born. And that applies to non-christians as well.
- Although we cannot fully rejoice at the birth we should make it clear that we are desperately interested in the child. We do this by sending cards and presents, and generally being interested in the child.
I feel it is all about the mixture of grace and truth, but it is a hard one to call as regards to where we pitch our response.