Sex before marriage is wrong. It is prohibited by God’s Word. Hebrews 13:4 says Marriage should be honoured by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. This means that care should be taken before marriage to make sure that passions are not aroused inappropriately. It would be my counsel thereby that couples before marriage, should be cautious about allowing physical contact between their bodies even when fully clothed. May Lin and myself avoided there being any contact being between various parts of our bodies. This is something we never regret. It meant that:
- We had boundaries which ensured that we would never be placed in a compromised situation.
- We were building our relationship on the right foundation. The physical is an important icing to a relationship; it is not the foundation. What we were doing was relating to each other in the Lord and as companions. This helped us develop a good foundation for our relationship. So many relationships are unstable because they have been founded on the physical.
- The blessings of sexual engagement within marriage were not spoiled by sinful indiscretions before.