A wimp is a man who is failing to be what a man should be. He is “Weak-In-My-Personality”. And there are an awful lot of them around. Immediately, people rush for a solution in encouraging men to be more macho. However, the cure for wimpyness is not found in bigger muscles rather it is found in the spiritual realm. In fact the most physically strong men can be just as much wimps as those of us who are less well endowed in muscular terms!
So what is this all about? We live in age where the role of men is seen to be very unclear. The leadership role for man has been undermined. Men used to be accepted as the provider / leader in marriage and family units. Today this has, in many ways, been lost. So how are men to save themselves from becoming wimps. Let us reiterate here that it is not through “pumping-more-iron” in the gym. Rather it is a man finding and fulfilling his God appointed duty in life.
The essence of true manhood is found in following Jesus and not in following our own schemes and inventions. The pattern was set right at the beginning of the ministry of our Lord Jesus when He called two men, Simon and Andrew, who were involved in one of the toughest pursuits around; that of fishing. However, to realise their full potential and become true men they had to obey the command: “Come, follow me,” Jesus said, “and I will send you out to fish for people” (Mark 1:17). This following of Jesus is understood to mean living for God and serving Him. To put it another way a man starts to be what he should be when he becomes a Christian. This means submitting to God’s call to repent of our rebellion and self-assertiveness and trust in Jesus Christ who died on the cross to take away our sins. It is a lie of the devil to think that men cease being real men if they become Christians. Rather, the truth is that we start to be true men when we embrace God’s call upon our lives and start to follow Christ and fish for men.
However, although it is wonderful when men start to be true men in embracing the gospel, the fact remains that many Christian men have “lost the plot” and are essentially wimps themselves. Why can we say this? We say this because so many professing Christian men fail to fulfill their responsibilities, in the family, in marriage and in the church.
Sadly wimp-hood among God’s people has a long history. In fact we can say that the first wimp was Adam. We read in Genesis 3:1-6 how he stood on one side and allowed his wife, Eve, to “face-the- music” from Satan who was embodied in the serpent. Genesis 3:6b says She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. We can so easily blame Eve for being completely deceived (see 1 Tim. 2:14). However, Adam’s inaction substantially contributed to the disaster. He, alone, was given the command by God (see Gen. 2:15-17) and he should have made sure it was carried out in the family home. Sadly he did not. And how that continues today. Men stand on one side and allow the women to do the spiritual stuff with the children. Men sit at home while they send their wives and children to go off to church.
Where are the men who are gathering their family around them regularly during the week to read the Word of God and to pray? Where are the men who are there, in church, with their families setting an example in leading the family in the praise of our God? How many Christian wives are there around who are just longing for their husbands to get their act together and set the spiritual tone in the family? Remember that in God’s arrangement leadership is male.
And again where are the men who are giving themselves to active involvement in the church? Where are the men who are devoting themselves to the church prayer meetings and thereby fulfilling Paul’s injunction in 1 Tim 2:8: I want the men everywhere to pray, lifting up holy hands without anger or disputing.
Of course for many men other pressing demands in their lives hinder them from fulfilling their responsibilities. However, the old adage that “where-there-is-a-will-there-is-a-way” is apt here. Notwithstanding, the legitimate demands placed upon them by jobs or family commitments many have found a way of fulfilling their commitments. In fact, we can say that the key to avoiding wimpyness is to get the right attitude.
So what are some of the implications of the failure of men to “put-their-hands-up” and be true men:
- Ladies are having to get involved in roles / responsibilities which they should never have to.
- Role models are being lost to the oncoming generation. Wimps breed wimps! Boys growing up now in the church need to see displays of true manly godliness which they can model themselves upon.
- So many men are simply wasting their lives. God calls us to be making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil (Eph.5:16). Many are wasting their time rather than redeeming their time for God.
Come on then you wimps out there. Get out of your comfort zone and be something for God. In fact start to be a real man. However, having stated these things, we need to be brave enough to admit that the church has contributed to this malaise.
(Taken from the Feltham Evangelical Newsletter of April 2009)