Here I mused upon the blessing of having good listeners around. Today I want to look at the issue of talkers. Some people just love to talk.
One thing I have observed about talkers is that they are very impressive. They really do, on the whole, talk a good talk. And when you are listening you can be taken in by their declarations on this and that. Moreover, so very often their opinions, which are readily forthcoming, relate approvingly their own activities and accomplishments. And the uninitiated can go away oh so impressed with their pontifications on this and that.
Hey, but wait on a minute what is the reality? What really is the fruit from all this talking? No I am not talking about what is stated by the talker. Neither am I commenting upon the genuineness of their assertions appertaining to all things within their ambit (and some not within their ambit, of course ). Rather I want to know what actually do they do and what actually comes to fruition notwithstanding all their verbalized intentions.
Two scriptures come to mind.
- “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,” (James 1:19). Christians should be slow to speak. Before you speak think. And in your thinking ponder upon this: are these words that I am going to say, true, helpful and necessary? If they fail this test then, I suggest, it is best not to say them.
- Then this from our Lord in Matt 21:28-32
‘What do you think? There was a man who had two sons. He went to the first and said, “Son, go and work today in the vineyard.”
‘“I will not,” he answered, but later he changed his mind and went.
‘Then the father went to the other son and said the same thing. He answered, “I will, sir,” but he did not go.
‘Which of the two did what his father wanted?’
‘The first,’ they answered.
Jesus said to them, ‘Truly I tell you, the tax collectors and the prostitutes are entering the kingdom of God ahead of you. For John came to you to show you the way of righteousness, and you did not believe him, but the tax collectors and the prostitutes did. And even after you saw this, you did not repent and believe him.
This leaves us with interesting thoughts about who actually does that which please God. Sadly, the big talkers are very often not the big doers.
And finally this, which my Mum attributed to my Uncle John, but no doubt has many sources: “Empty cans make most noise”