The first step that Satan engineers, with a view to destroying relationships, is to get people to stop talking to one another. When people stop talking together, it is a sure sign that their relationship is in trouble. Therefore, we need to keep talking together. This is true in marriages, in family life and in our churches.
These are the beautiful and yet challenging words from Malachi 3:16:
Then those who feared the Lord spoke to one another,
And the Lord listened and heard them;
So a book of remembrance was written before Him
For those who fear the Lord
And who meditate on His name.
The LORD takes a delight in His people talking together of Himself and His ways. This needs to be cultivated more and more among us so that relationships are deepened.
When this stops happening, relationships start to weaken. When conversing stops altogether, then that relationship is likely to collapse. This happens because conversation means sharing. When we speak, we are sharing together who we are, what we think and what our desires are. In conversation we get to know people and they get to know us. Through talking together, we understand one another.
I know that I have had the experience of presuming someone had a certain understanding of something. I then spoke to them and it became apparent that I had misapprehended what they thought. The talking led to clarification and understanding
No talking together means that there are barriers erected. Fellowship becomes meaningless and there is damage to the church fellowship as a whole.
No talking also means that situations are allowed to fester. Misunderstandings are not addressed. Others can become involved and “take sides”. Divisions begin to be manifest.
So let us resist the devil and keep talking together. It is so good to cultivate an open speaking together in our churches. Through this, healthy relationships are built. And as the people of God share together, the Lord is delighted.